How To Free Yourself from the Fear of Betrayal

December 17th, 2009 by admin

Nanette Geiger, Relationship Advisor , writes… …

“I don’t want to be hurt continuously, but I truly want to be with my soul mate. How can I feel more confident about love”?

You have two ways to go here. 1) You can mope until you have had adequate time in between the pain in your past relationship or 2) start moving on and releasing the past. Since you want to reach your soul mate, then I would do the work in releasing. It is quicker and easier than you’d imagine. Receiving help from a certified relationship life coach can make your path smoother.

Being guided to do release work is a way of releasing and freeing yourself from your past. Think of releasing your emotions and letting go as forgiveness. You’re making energetic space for the fresh, new, healthy, and whole relationship to show up into.

I can hear some of you right now saying “Yeah but, I don’t think he really should be forgiven for his actions. He wronged me and that is just that”! The will it takes to hold a grudge takes up your space. You’re allowing your energy to be drained away from you. It is a slow trickle in your energy level and after a while, it will deplete you, if it has not already. What’s more, that little energy trickle prevents you from having all of your power focused in this present moment. When you don’t have your power in the moment, do you imagine you are going to be the perfect creator that you truly are? It becomes that much more impairing. Take your full potential back by releasing and letting go of the past, of judgements that weigh you down, muss up your energy field and prevent you from moving forward to having the life you were meant to live. You can speed up the process immensely by receiving help from a life coach.

I find that the topic of forgiveness can be a complicated one. Firstly, I’m not speaking of the kind of forgiving where we were excusing someone’s bad behavior. It is essential to have clear boundaries set for you. And to understand how you feel concerning who you desire in your life and who you don’t, how you want to spend your time and with whom. It’s essential to realize what works for you and what doesn’t. Get Relationship Life Coaching and Advice for Women today!

Until you clear the space of hurt, you’ll either create more pain or have a difficult time being completely fulfilled with love. So first, expunge the old hurt, then release and let in new love.