Nanette Geiger, Relationship Advisor , writes… …

“I don’t want to be hurt continuously, but I truly want to be with my soul mate. How can I feel more confident about love”?

You have two ways to go here. 1) You can mope until you have had adequate time in between the pain in your past relationship or 2) start moving on and releasing the past. Since you want to reach your soul mate, then I would do the work in releasing. It is quicker and easier than you’d imagine. Receiving help from a certified relationship life coach can make your path smoother.

Being guided to do release work is a way of releasing and freeing yourself from your past. Think of releasing your emotions and letting go as forgiveness. You’re making energetic space for the fresh, new, healthy, and whole relationship to show up into.

I can hear some of you right now saying “Yeah but, I don’t think he really should be forgiven for his actions. He wronged me and that is just that”! The will it takes to hold a grudge takes up your space. You’re allowing your energy to be drained away from you. It is a slow trickle in your energy level and after a while, it will deplete you, if it has not already. What’s more, that little energy trickle prevents you from having all of your power focused in this present moment. When you don’t have your power in the moment, do you imagine you are going to be the perfect creator that you truly are? It becomes that much more impairing. Take your full potential back by releasing and letting go of the past, of judgements that weigh you down, muss up your energy field and prevent you from moving forward to having the life you were meant to live. You can speed up the process immensely by receiving help from a life coach.

I find that the topic of forgiveness can be a complicated one. Firstly, I’m not speaking of the kind of forgiving where we were excusing someone’s bad behavior. It is essential to have clear boundaries set for you. And to understand how you feel concerning who you desire in your life and who you don’t, how you want to spend your time and with whom. It’s essential to realize what works for you and what doesn’t. Get Relationship Life Coaching and Advice for Women today!

Until you clear the space of hurt, you’ll either create more pain or have a difficult time being completely fulfilled with love. So first, expunge the old hurt, then release and let in new love.

Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Best Selling Author , writes… …

“I frequently seem to create a partner who is emotionally unavailable. What should I do to alter that”? This is a question that came from one of my clients. Interestingly, that was the strongest negative vibration I recurred from my long string of failed relationships. They were either emotionally inept, lived far away or traveled a great deal.

When you continue creating unavailable relationships, my question to you is, “Is something in you that is afraid to commit, or afraid to be truly open in a love relationship”? That may be hard to accept at the moment, but that’s what I find to be the situation in most cases.

As a relationship life coach, I provide Relationship Life Coaching for Women. I also suggest that you get very clear about what you want. Get clear by creating a list of the qualities you want in your perfect mate.

You make the list for yourself so you can get clear concerning what it is you truly desire. You’ll start to realize where any weaknesses are in yourself as you make the list. You will see where you should go to increase your level of expectation or belief in the likelihood of receiving what you’re desiring.

To evoke the state of feeling happy expectation, next ask yourself the question “Why do I desire this”? It is time to engage your imagination. When you answer this question, imagine all the wonderful activities you will do with your attracted mate. Think of grinning, holding hands, and introducing him to your girlfriends. Think of what it will be like to be with someone who is romantic and loves to bring you a bouquet.

You create the list for you, and the Universe responds to your clarity – the undiluted intention and unresisted desire!

Many of us have been told as a child to accept what you get, it’s not polite to ask for favors, why can’t you just be content with what you have? – kind of like programming. I suggest you ask for it all and keep creating yourself into the alignment of your desires.

Nanette Geiger, Law of Attraction Relationship Specialist , writes… …

You’ve recently come out of a negative relationship that doesn’t work for you anymore. It was hard to cease it, because it was not horrible, although your emotions wished to be truly fulfilled in love. Currently you find yourself feeling lonely and have a difficult time closing the door completely on that difficult relationship. Does this sound like you?

You begin to question yourself, wondering if your relationship was really that bad.

In order to allow anything new into our existence, we need to release what is taking its place. It isdifficult to have a fresh renewal and attract the one who completes your life if you are emotionally holding the area of the past. You don’t have to necessarily absolutely abandon the friendship. However, if you find that you are holding on to many unresolved emotions from the previous relationship, then it is time to clear that energy out. You have to go the whole way. You can get the Relationship Advice you need today.

Completion is a action of acquiring 100% responsibility for your emotional level, expressing all that you feel about your situation (without laying blame on anyone) with the intention of voicing everything that needs to be said as though you are emptying a container. When you’ve said it all, the container is clean and cleared out.

It also assists you to know what you want from the expunging conversation. In other words, you want to be complete, you desire to be free from your past so you can attract from a fresh vantage point.

If you have found yourself holding on to pain from the past, maybe you think that he really should be held accountable for his actions. Good luck attempting to shake free from that. The longer your attention is on something you don’t desire, the more you’ll create it to you.

Let the energy you are allowing to be siphoned off from your power. It is a tiny leak in your energy field and after a while, it will deplete you, if it has not already. Moreover, that eventual energy leak limits you from having all your power present in this moment. When you don’t have your mind in the moment it makes it more difficult to be a powerful, deliberate creator. Life Coaching and Relationship Advice can help you along the way.

Take your full power back by releasing and letting go of your past, of judgements that bog you down, clutter up your energy level and block you from accelerating the life and love you want and deserve.

Nanette Geiger, Relationship Best Selling Author , writes… …

A Life Coach for people with confidence or self-esteem problems is extremely valuable in addressing this following question. Women tend to be plagued mostly from trust, abandonment and lack of feelings of being worthy issues. Life Coaching for Women is one solution to solve this issue in relationship coaching. Anita asks: “Are some people just meant to be alone”? Anita, since you responded to our survey concerning love and the Law of Attraction, I’m going to assume you’ve considering creating love for you. Many people decide to keep away from serious relationships. And that is not always the situation for a person who’s stopped after they’ve continuously been unsuccessful. Nothing at all is wrong with preferring to be without an intimate relationship. Your life can be fulfilled and fantastic with any decision you end up with.

As long as you realize you are deciding that instead of throwing up your hands out of frustration that you have not created the love of your dreams. You can have it all in a relationship and in life.

If you could see yourself from the point of view of Source or your Inner Being, or the Universe, you’d be viewing a beautiful, fantastic, brilliant, connected consciousness. Then life begins to occur around us. Our well-meaning parents, teachers, and elders, in an attempt to teach us, teach us from the beginning what we need to look out for, stop us, caution us, and try to protect us, effectively having us listen to their fears and insecurities rather than tuning in to our own guidance systems. OK, I will give you as simple new creatures we do need protection. Fine. But shortly following they understand to do things by themselves, self-awareness should be part of the training for the little children.

Well-meaning parents want to do the right thing so they guide, caution, admonish, and scare young ones to make them behave. This only creates an underlying insecurity and inability. The sensation of not-enoughness gets instilled at an early age.

Neurological research now explains to us that before we’re 7, we’re so open and receptive, we have no filtering abilities at all. We walk around in a kind of hypnagogic trance and become impressed with whatever comes into our life experience. It is not a wonder we have deeply ingrained, although misplaced, beliefs about an imperfect nature. By the time we are 6 years old, we have listened to the word “NO” about 60,000 times. Watch out for that, that could hurt you, be careful, do not drop that. The recurring message says you are inept, you can’t trust yourself, you don’t understand what you are doing, and so on.

Our parents and elders were indeed well-meaning. They only intended for our well-being. But you can see how simply we have been trained away from our innate greatness and brilliance.

I recommend that you go easy on yourself and give yourself a break. First off, it is not your fault. It’s not even the fault of your elders. They were taught the same way too. You can stop the perpetration of lower sense of self-worth on yourself and everyone you know. You deserve to have anything your heart desires.

Do your very best to give yourself love and self-acceptance. Adhere to yourself as you would a beloved child. Forgive her for her shortcomings. The truth is, the Universe adores, Spirit adores you, and your Inner Being loves you. Why? Because you ARE adorable. And that IS the reality!